Update on Consequences

I have loved all of the feed back concerning Chloe and my lack of mothering skills {Laura}. Dan and I decided that we would take away her TV privileges for four days {she was four} as punishment for cutting Jacob's hair. She has had to do some extra chores to help pay for the fixing of her blind strings. We again talked about how we don't cut our own hair or any one else's, for that matter! I talked to her and told her that if she was to cut any one's hair again, I would cut her blanket up into little pieces and throw it all away. If she pees in or on any of her toys again, they will be immediately thrown out!!! It is so hard to follow through with consequences that make my life harder... Chloe has sucked her pointer finger for so long and we have been trying everything to help her not suck her finger. We have ignored it, painted stuff on that fingernail, dowsed it in vinegar and hot sauce... Most recently, while talking about her upcoming birthday, I told her that if she wanted to have a birthday party with her friends she would have to stop sucking her finger. Her birthday has come and gone and she didn't get a party. I am so disappointed. I had planned to have a two hour birthday/slumber party. Have a few friends over in their PJ's, have popcorn, watch a movie, create fabulous pillow cases, paint toenails {Super Sparkly}, decorate cupcakes, eat them and send them home! She tells me that she wants balloons at her party. I remind her that if she stops sucking her finger I will get balloons at her party...